Last week I met with an incredible 30-something ball-juggling ninja.
On the outside, she “had it all.” She was married with two kids, was a key player in a family-operated business, and had a side hustle as a real estate agent. She knew how to dot all the “i’s” and cross all the “t’s.” She took care of everyone and everything all around her.
She had everything she’d ever strived for…
…and found herself pretty miserable.
The overwhelm on her face and in her voice was palpable.
She had an incredible amount of chatter in her head. Maybe some of it sounds familiar to you:
- There’s soooooo much to do.
- I should be home with my kids.
- I should be working.
- My employees need me.
- My husband and I aren’t connecting.
- I have to take care of everything.
- My kids think I’m boring.
- I have to carry on the family business.
- My husband doesn’t do much.
Many of my clients start out feeling overwhelmed like her. They have so much to focus on that they don’t even know where to start or what to focus on at all. The chatter—oh the chatter—never stops. It keeps them so stuck they can’t even see better options.
All they really know was that figuring the answers on their own isn’t working.
We get started.
Together, we start chipping away at their confusion and creating a plan. We develop clarity, a direction, and a roadmap. The process looks like this:
- Create a vision.
We set the GPS. What do you want that you don’t currently have (in your life, your relationships, at work, with your employees, and in how you show up in the world)? Over time, you learn how to close the gap between where you are and where you want to be.
What’s REALLY important on your “to do” list? What can you delegate? Say “no” to? Drop altogether? We use this question as a lens: “Does this get you closer or further away from your vision?”
- Examine (and replace) the chatter.
Is your current inner dialog serving you? What stories can you drop? Where can you think differently? Let’s work on strategies to rid yourself of your current mind drama.
- Rinse and repeat.
Your visions change, your priorities shift, and you create new and different mind drama. As we continue to work together, you check-in and revise your visions, priorities, and chatter. The more often you practice “rinsing and repeating,” the better you get at it!
As my clients and I work together over time, they begin to transform. They start to feel calm. In control. Capable.
How do I know? Because I had TWO clients tell me just this week that their frenzy has dissipated. Their urgency and overwhelm have gone away. They feel relaxed and in control. (Wha-?!?!)
What they have is available to you too.
All you have to do is be willing to ask for it.